The Truth Will Set You Free But It Will Piss You Off
Do You want to take the big leap into a business and life you love? Did you know the reason you haven’t been able to, is because of The Bully in Your Brain? Want to know what this means?
Do you ever find yourself feeling really angry, but then a voice inside you tells you to not feel that way?
I know I’ve experienced this on more than one occasion. What I’ve come to discover that, a long time ago, I got a message that anger is inappropriate so you better do whatever you can to hide it, put it aside, or rise above it. (translation…stuff it)
What I’ve also discovered since practicing tapping is that anger is one of many emotions we as humans have available to us. There’s nothing wrong with anger. It’s just an emotion. Anger becomes a problem when it continually gets pushed down. For myself, I got really good at this and then what began to happen for me was it couldn’t help but leak out in appropriate ways. My container had become so full, there was no where for me to deposit my anger anymore and it couldn’t help but rears it head.
According to the PBS special The Emotional Life:
Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage. It is a reaction to a perceived threat to ourselves, our loved ones, our property, our self-image, or some part of our identity.
I love this:
Anger is a warning bell that tells us that something is wrong.
When you’re a child and feel angry, you’re sensing something is wrong, you sense your self-image is being tampered with and if you’re surrounded by adults that were never shown how to responsibly feel and deal with their anger, that gets handed down to you and most likely you’ve learned to stuff your anger and you turn it inward and it just keeps building up.
Think of a pressure cooker. As the lid is locked down tight and no air is allowed to escape, the potential exists for a tumultuous explosion, that can inflict real harm or even death, IF the lid is somehow removed without letting the pressure out first.
Your anger is the same way. Once it’s been built up over the years, it can explode for you at what can seem like the most inappropriate time over something seemingly trivial.
The steam is like your anger and when it isn’t released in the moment it’s felt, it keeps building up until it can explode and inflict real harm. Just like taking the lid off the pressure cooker, you press the release value and this lets the steam out a little at a time, if at the moment you felt anger, you allowed yourself to really feel it and work through it, it wouldn’t become rage. It would just be anger that would move though you, like any other emotion, then be gone.
When you keep denying your anger and keep having to push it down, it builds up. With tapping, you have the opportunity to release the anger that’s built up over the years in a healthy, productive way, so you can empty your pressure cooker and start over.
Now you can allow for your anger when it occurs. Embrace it, feel it and tap through it and it won’t build up again. You can learn how to feel anger in the healthiest possible way.
“When angry, count to four. When really angry, swear.”Mark Twain
In my EFT practice, it has set me free to let my anger have it’s say and swear, emote, feel it and tap through it so that it keeps loosening it’s grip on me. This way, you too can become a better version of yourself each and every day and ultimately allow for your anger productively and moving forward so you can Take the Big Leap to a Life You Love.
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Marti