Feeling Victimized By Others
For many years now that I’ve spent a lot of my life feeling victimized by people, circumstances and myself. I know this because I see the blame game I’ve been playing. The challenge was I could see this, but felt powerless to do anything about it. It sucked because I felt victimized by my victimization. The victimization was piling up for me.
One night, I got clarity on how I was playing this out. I saw that I had attracted numerous men into my life that I was playing this game with. Years before I was banging the drum of this victimization with various women, so it really wasn’t limited to a particular gender. It was pure and not so simple victimization. So here’s the personal tapping script I came up with for myself and I hope you find this useful, if this is a challenge you are dealing with in your life.
Karate Chop:
Even though, I now realize, that I have been playing out this pattern with others, of being victimized and it sucks. I chose to love and accept myself, even if just a little bit.
Even though I see that I have felt victimized for many years, and I learned this somewhere,I chose to love and accept this part of me.
Even though I realize, I have been so un-accepting for so long now, of this part of me that plays the victim, and I’m really, really good at it. In fact, I think I have an honorary PHD in this, I chose to feel calm and peaceful.
Eyebrow: I have felt victimized for so long now.
Side of the Eye: And it’s wearing me out.
Under the Eye: It’s getting old.
Under the Nose: But I still play this out…every day with various people.
Chin point: It’s hard to remain unconscious of this anymore.
Collarbone: I’m becoming aware of how I play my role as the victim.
Under the Arm: It’s getting really uncomfortable.
Top of the Head: I do it every day, with different people throughout the day.
Eyebrow: And it’s really dragging me down.
Side of the Eye: I never realized how much until now.
Under the Eye: I feel so victimized, so disempowered.
Under the Nose: It’s so discouraging.
Chin Point: It’s so frustrating.
Collarbone: It feels hopeless and makes me feel sad.
Under the Arm: To see myself play out this victimization game.
Top of the Head: I watch myself do this.
Eyebrow: Reacting to someone or something and feeling like a child.
Side of the Eye: Hearing someone saying something mean to me.
Under the Eye: I feel frozen and lost.
Under the Nose: I feel debilitated.
Chin Point: I feel overwhelmed.
Collarbone: It’s actually shocking.
Under the Arm: How can someone talk to me like that?
Top of the Head: I’m a nice person.
Eyebrow: I don’t deserve this.
Side of the Eye: I don’t get it.
Under the Eye: I didn’t do anything that would warrant this attack.
Under the Nose: I was attacked.
Chin Point: That’s it. I feel attacked.
Collarbone: It’s so hurtful.
Under the Arm: I feel so bad.
Top of the Head: I hate this feeling.
Eyebrow: I hate this person.
Side of the Eye: This is so unfair.
Under the Eye: I know I shouldn’t hate them, but I do.
Under the Nose: I feel resentful.
Chin Point: How can they do this?
Collarbone: I feel so angry.
Under the Arm: There it is, that debilitating feel.
Top of the Head: It’s so upsetting.
Eyebrow: I feel so victimized.
Side of the Eye: This overwhelming victimization.
Under the Eye: I definitely don’t deserve this.
Under the Nose: It’s so unwarranted.
Chin Point: It’s so unfair.
Collarbone: I have to change this.
Under the Arm: It’s too painful now.
Top of the Head: All this victimization.
Eyebrow: All this anger.
Side of the Eye: All this sadness.
Under the Eye: I’m beginning to see that I just might be contributing to this.
Under the Nose: That can’t be possible.
Chin Point: They’re definitely doing this to me.
Collarbone: But what if, by my reaction, I somehow invite this.
Under the Arm: This can’t be so.
Top of the Head: There’s no way I invite this.
Eyebrow: It’s so out of the blue.
Side of the Eye: It’s so shocking.
Under the Eye: But what if, I can be open to the idea, that on some level, somehow, some way, I invite this.
Under the Nose: Could this be possible?
Chin Point: I don’t think so.
Collarbone: Maybe so.
Under the Arm: No way.
Top of the Head: Maybe.
Eyebrow: No way.
Side of the Eye: Maybe.
Under the Eye: Really?
Under the Nose: I might actually invite this in some way?
Chin Point: I can’t get my mind around this.
Collarbone: Maybe I can.
Under the Arm: Not I can’t.
Top of the Head: But what if I can?
Eyebrow: What if by doing so, I can begin to free myself of this pattern.
Side of the Eye: What if by accepting some responsibility in this, just a little, I can begin to free myself.
Under the Eye: I do want to free myself.
Under the Nose: I’ve been in bondage long enough.
Chin Point: I don’t want to keep playing this out.
Collarbone: I can’t change them.
Under the Arm: I’ve tried.
Top of the Head: That doesn’t work.
Eyebrow: Never works.
Side of the Eye: It’s a dead end that leaves me feeling bad all over again.
Under the Eye: This is impossible.
Under the Nose: That somehow I invite this.
Chin Point: But what if, it’s below the surface.
Collarbone: What if, just by acknowledging this, I can start to improve this.
Under the Arm: What if, by acknowledging that I have something to do with this, I can begin to see the power in this.
Top of the Head: What if, by acknowledging this, I can begin to change this.
Eyebrow: What if, that’s the beginning of change for me.
Side of the Eye: My life can begin to improve in this arena.
Under the Eye: I like this idea.
Under the Nose: This feel like it might resemble power.
Chin Point: Personal Power.
Collarbone: I can’t change them. I’ve tried.
Under the Arm: But I can change me.
Take a deep breath. Write down any images, any thoughts that came up for you. Now you can go back and tap on each one of these aspects individually then use the following positive round to close.
Karate Chop:
Even though this idea, of change me, still feels a bit impossible, I’m beginning to open up to this idea and I’m beginning to see that I can love and accept myself, even if only just a little.
Even though, this idea, about personal power, feels new to me, in this arena, I’m beginning to open to this and I’m noticing I’m starting to feel better and I chose to accept this possibility.
Even though, this idea, about personal power and only looking to change myself, feels like a foreign language to me, I chose to feel calm and peaceful.
Eyebrow: This is new to me. This feeling of personal power.
Side of the Eye: I’ve heard it many times before.
Under the Eye: I’ve used it before, but not so much here.
Under the Nose: I like this idea, because it shows me all I have to do is change me.
Chin Point: That’s a big enough job for me.
Collarbone: I’m tired of wanting others to change.
Under the Arm: I still want them to change on some level, but I’m beginning to see how hopeless this is.
Top of the Head: Hopeless for me.
Eyebrow: And I want to invite more hope into my life.
Side of the Eye: And I’m inviting it right now.
Under the Eye: Here it comes.
Under the Nose: I can feel it coming.
Chin Point: This renewed sense of hope.
Collarbone: I think I might be able to do this.
Under the Arm: I don’t have to do it all at once.
Top of the Head: I can do it a little at a time.
Eyebrow: This feels possible to me.
Side of the Eye: This feels better to me.
Under the Eye: I feel hope surging up in me.
Under the Nose: I see possibility.
Chin Point: I feel myself opening up.
Collarbone: I’ve been shut down for so long.
Under the Arm: This opening feels so new and exciting and a little scary too.
Top of the Head: But I’m feeling better.
Eyebrow: I’m feeling less victimized.
Side of the Eye: I’m feeling possibility.
Under the Eye: This feels good to me.
Under the Nose: It feels so good to open up and know I can take my time with this.
Chin Point: I don’t have to make a big jump.
Collarbone: I can if I want, but I don’t have to.
Under the Arm: I can be Master and Commander of my own ship.
Top of the Head: I can begin to be in charge of me.
Eyebrow: This feels like such a relief.
Side of the Eye: I feel myself relaxing into this.
Under the Eye: I feel myself feeling better.
Under the Nose: I feel myself being better to myself.
Chin Point: I might even be feeling love surging up for myself.
Collarbone: What a concept.
Under the Arm: I’ve always thought I loved myself.
Top of the Head: But now I’m starting to feel it, inside of me.
Eyebrow: I feel myself feeling better.
Side of the Eye: And this feels good.
Under the Eye: I feel myself shifting.
Under the Nose: I feel more positive.
Chin Point: I feel more hopeful.
Collarbone: I feel more powerful.
Under the Arm: I feel more deserving.
Top of the Head: I am deserving.
Eyebrow: I feel better about myself
Side of the Eye: I deserve to treat myself good.
Under the Eye: I deserve to be treated well.
Under the Nose: I want this for myself.
Chin Point: I’m reaching for this now.
Collarbone: And it feels so good.
Under the Arm: I feel my power rising up inside of me.
Top of the Head: I feel empowered.
Eyebrow: There it is.
Side of the Eye: My long lost friend.
Under the Eye: The power I was born with.
Under the Nose: The power I’ve never had to earn.
Chin Point: The power that has always been in me.
Collarbone: I’ve just forgot this.
Under the Arm: But I’m remembering now.
Top of the Head: And it feels so good.
Eyebrow: I feel so vibrant.
Side of the Eye: I feel so alive.
Under the Eye: I am so deserving.
Under the Nose: I was born this way.
Chin Point: And now I don’t have to hide this anymore.
Collarbone: How fantastic this feels.
Under the Arm: How great it feels to come from this place.
Top of the Head: All this self-empowerment.
Eyebrow: My long lost friend has returned.
Side of the Eye: In truth it never left me.
Under the Eye: I’m just letting it flow out of me now.
Under the Nose: It feels so good to let it flow.
Chin Point: I deserve love.
Collarbone: I deserve respect.
Under the Arm: I deserve to feel fantastic about myself.
Top of the Head: It’s my birthright.
Eyebrow: I deserve this.
Side of the Eye: And I’m filled with gratitude for the remembering.
Under the Eye: I am filled with possibility.
Under the Nose: I’m filled with hope, love and self-respect.
Chin Point: I feel the positive changes coming into my life right now.
Collarbone: They are flowing in.
Under the Arm: I am so grateful for.
Top of the Head: I’m so thankful I’m remembering.