The Lie That Feels Like a Truth
This is a concept that came to me through sessions with clients.
We often talk about limiting beliefs but what exactly are they?
I describe them as beliefs that place limitations on what we see as possible for us.
We learned them from anyone in an authority role in our early lives.
So a belief comes from a thought that you’ve been thinking over and over and over again. The more you think the thought, the more the belief is embedded in your psyche and thus your energy system.
Limiting beliefs are actually lies that you’ve learned from others and then they become a part of you, which means you’ve learned to believe them.
Lies like:
You’re a loser.
You don’t have what it takes.
You can’t make money doing that.
You’re not smart enough.
You’re not thin enough.
You’re not attractive enough.
On and on and on ad nauseum.
The good news about having learned them, is you can unlearn them.
In reality, these are lies that feel like truths.
From a broader perspective, if you have any belief in the idea that you’re a divine, infinite being, as a infinite being you understand that you are unlimited, and from this vantage point the above statements are definitely lies, but in your humaness, they feel really true.
Bryon Katie, is a pioneer in questioning your thoughts. She says,
“Our thoughts are why we suffer.”
With tapping we end up releasing the lies, so that we can see the truth.
I look at this way. As an divine, infinite being, you are born with everything you need already installed in you. You come into this life experience fully equipped, believing in limitless possibility.
Watch young children, before they get too many limiting beliefs put in place. Really watch them. They don’t know lack or limitation. They really don’t. Not until we tell them about it.
My daughter used to see commercials for toys and often asked me if she could have whatever that particular toy was. It really didn’t seem to matter what it was, she would ask.
I have no idea where I learned to do this with her, (accept to say that we teach what we need to learn), but I would always tell her yes. I would say something like, “Yes, next time we see it in a store we can get it.”
The interesting thing was that, more often than not, she’d forgot about it. Sometimes I would see that very toy somewhere and she was with me and she wouldn’t recognize it, because she had moved on from it to whatever her newest desire was.
She only seemed to remember when it was something that she’d heard a lot about from peers.
When actually in a store, I learned to give her a choice.
“Do you want this toy or that toy?” If you think about it, she was always getting a yes and getting a choice, a vote.
Let me say, she is not a “spoiled” person. I want to support her in believing she can get what she truly desires.
So back to children. Watch young children. Really watch them. They don’t know lack or limitation. They see possibility.
For many of us, possibility got stripped away over time.
We learned to believe lies that feel like truth.
I had a lovely client tell me recently how this thought has stayed with her.
“A lie that feels like a truth.”
She told me when she finds herself believing thoughts that don’t feel good, she now reminds herself that these are….
“Lies that feel like truths.”
She has a great pattern interupt that is changing how she sees herself and her life over time.
Here’s how it works:
The more she reminds herself this is a lie that feels like a truth, the more she shifts it to a positive feeling and the more she’s stripping away the lies (limiting beliefs), the more she’s creating an opening for the divine, infinite being she is to come shining through. And the more she does this, the more truths she’ll remember about herself.
So next time you catch yourself believing a thought that feels bad, say to yourself, “This is a lie that feels like a truth.”
Keep doing that and see what changes for you.
Here’s to You!
Marti