Is worrying your default setting?
Here’s a way to find out:
When you think about your future, do you feel optimistic and hopeful, or pessimistic and worried?
When you think about your loved ones and your future with them, do you feel hopeful or worried?
When you get a message from someone and they say they need to talk to you, do you notice that you feel hopeful or worried?
If you notice you tend to lean more towards worry, in simplest terms, it’s likely that you became wired for worry early and life.
Worry has become your default setting. It’s about rewiring or reprogramming your current worry setting.
It’s important to at least keep the idea in mind to be patient with yourself while you’re upgrading your default setting internal software. (Impatience is a tappable issue as well.)
The more you interrupt your worrisome thoughts the better.
If you tell yourself that you HAVE TO STOP worrying, notice if that feels light or heavy. I know for me when I tell myself that I HAVE TO STOP or START anything, it feels heavy.
It always starts with self-acceptance. Something that I think will be a lifelong practice for most of us. When you really understand you’re never going to get this all done. In fact, you’re always going to be a work in progress, it really helps to take more of the pressure off.
To help you begin your rewiring process, I’ve included a tapping script for Tapping on Being Wired to Worry.
Here’s to You!
Marti : )
Tapping on Being Wired to Worry
Even though I’m a worry wart. I really feel this is true. I worry and I don’t like it but I can’t seem to stop it. I chose to acknowledge I feel this way.
Even though I’m wired for worry. I can worry about anything. I accept myself and my feelings now.
Even though I really worry. I learned to worry a long time ago and I’m really good at it. I chose to accept myself anyway.
Eyebrow: I’m wired to worry.
Side of the Eye: This certainly feels true.
Under the Eye: I seem to worry a lot.
Under the Nose: I wish I didn’t worry but I do. Chin Point: I would love to release this worry. Collarbone: But it feels like it’s really a part of me. Under the Arm: All of this worry.
Top of the Head: I feel like I worry a lot.
Eyebrow: I’m wired to worry after all.
Side of the Eye: The truth is, I learned to worry.
Under the Eye: I’ve actually practiced worrying for a long time.
Under the Nose: It’s like it’s a part of me.
Chin Point: What if this worry actually serves me in some way?
Collarbone: This can’t be possible.
Under the Arm: That’s just crazy talk.
Top of the Head: How could worry possibly serve me?
Eyebrow: What if by worrying, I’m actually protecting myself in some way?
Side of the Eye: What if by worrying, I’m actually preparing myself, so I’m not quite so shocked?
Under the Eye: What if my worrying really does prepare and protect me from feeling surprised?
Under the Nose: What if I learned to protect myself using worry to do it?
Chin Point: This might sound like crazy talk, but what if it’s true? Collarbone: Really. What if worrying does protect me in some way? Under the Arm: It prepares me in some way.
Top of the Head: Maybe I don’t have to judge myself so harshly for worrying.
Eyebrow: What if judging myself for worrying is a block in itself?
Side of the Eye: What if by accepting myself when I worry…this is the first step to setting myself free from worry?
Under the Eye: What if my past or even present worry doesn’t have to define me?
Chin Point: What if no matter how long I’ve worried I can still shift this? Collarbone: What if my worry is just something I’ve practiced for a long time? Under the Arm: What if it’s something I really can shift?
Top of the Head: I like this idea a lot.
Eyebrow: Yeah, but I’m wired to worry.
Side of the Eye: So what.
Under the Eye: What if it really just a habit?
Under the Nose: I’ve practiced worrying.
Chin Point: What if I can uncreate this habit?
Collarbone: What if I can be open to the idea that worry is really just a habit?
Under the Arm: It’s a habit that’s created a pattern of thinking within me.
Top of the Head: But I can still change this.
Eyebrow: What if I can tap when I feel worried?
Side of the Eye: What if this is a great way to shift my worrisome thoughts to more hopeful thoughts?
Under the Eye: I like the idea that this just might be possible.
Under the Nose: Worrying is a learned behavior.
Chin Point: And if I learned to worry. I can learn to hope.
Collarbone: I like this idea too.
Under the Arm: I learned to worry and I can learn to hope.
Top of the Head: This thought feels more hopeful.
Eyebrow: Even if I’m still worried now.
Side of the Eye: I can learn to move away from worry towards hope.
Under the Eye: What if I can be patient with myself?
Under the Nose: What if I can keep practicing releasing my worry?
Chin Point: I don’t have to deny my worrying.
Collarbone: I can actually own it and by owning it this is the first step towards releasing it.
Under the Arm: I worry.
Top of the Head: So what.
Eyebrow: I can learn to interrupt my worrisome thoughts.
Side of the Eye: And by interrupting them, I actually shift them.
Under the Eye: That feels like a lot less pressure.
Under the Nose: I acknowledge my worry and tap on it and this shifts it.
Chin Point: This feel possible.
Collarbone: Worry is a learned behavior.
Under the Arm: I really like the idea of owning it and shifting it.
Top of the Head: What if I’ve started this right here and now?